Have you ever been to a place and never expect to be stuck due to circumstances and living with uncertainties?
What would you do if things happened and it’s not meant to your plans?
Most of us this year 2020 is the most challenging year. All jobs have been stoped, shops are closed, we can’t travel, too much restrictions and most of us can’t do what we want to do(staying at home).
I just learned that this year was the time to realized that life was not meant to be in one place.
Things happened unexpectedly. From living in different places – I learned that life is too short and unpredictable, instead of making myself depressed I try to broaden my horizons and let change happen without forcing myself to react on what’s happening around.
CHANGE YOUR MINDSET.
Changed the mentality that the place you are now are set to you for the rest of your life. This is the time to explore new things, new places, learn to embrace new experiences and enjoy the new incredible journey.
Crazy things happen in unexpected way but we can change it in a way we wanted it to be. Learn to adopt and manage the things that makes us sick and turn into a memorable one.
Feeling stuck in life? Don’t you worry you’re not alone. Most of us now have the same feelings and it is a common problem now a days – globally we are in trying times. We get frustrated and depressed, it seems that we can’t move forward and the things we planned did not happen.
Feeling stuck means need to do something better – new things gonna happen soon and there are some things that is not meant for us. Our past should be changed into new ones because the routine/plans are not working anymore.
Things happening around us are temporary and we have to change our outlook in life in order to proceed for a new beginning.
As we live day by day, small things that we did will become big again someday. So start it now, make list of ways on how to start all over again that can help you start a new beginning in order to get your goal.
You don’t need to be in a hurry. Slow down, step forward and figure out what you need to do to be unstucked.
NEVER STOP CHASING YOUR DREAMS.
Dare to make yourself more productive and that uncertainty feeling should not stop us from making a change. Never ever stop chasing your dreams.
Even we are not sure what exactly the result is, never stop moving until you get there and see what you really want and how to get it.
So start acting. Sitting and waiting for things will not change anything at all. Start to do small things and the big result will be there soon even though how long you will wait at least you’ve started something new for yourself.
ALWAYS THINK POSITIVE.
Always think positive and pray to God to guide you every day that this life will be better again soon. Avoid negative energy/thoughts that makes you sick. Eliminate toxic people who always contribute negativity in your daily activities. Surround yourself with positivity and get rid of the negative ones. Get a bigger picture of your results.
Follow your heart but always be kind. Set boundaries and if people disrespect you just move away and step back.
All of us have problems and it is not magic to disappear when thinking positive vibes and positive mind but it helps us to manage our own problems in a positive approach to our hardships in a productive way. Always think positive so that life will give back positive results.
RELAX AND STOP OVERTHINKING.
Just relax. Spend time with yourself and stop overthinking. We can’t control every situations and circumstances but the life we wanted is within our control.
Just focus on good things. In this trying times we have a lot of challenging situations which is already part of our daily life. But instead of focusing in this negative settings, try to convert it into enjoyable and fun way. For example, you really feel uncomfortable with your housemates for some personal reasons then don’t just seat and keep on punishing yourself in thinking “what ifs” and “if only”, instead walk away and make yourself busy. Read books. Write poems/blog. Talk to your love ones through phone calls or have a walk and get some fresh air – deeply breath, tell yourself that everything will be fine soon.
LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF.
This is the darkest feeling in my whole life because I felt that I am so unproductive for almost 6 months. I don’t know what to do and how to start all over again. I never thought that life was so cruel to me this year. But, I realized that life has taught me a lot. No income but still surviving. Still have foods to eat. No sickness and still breathing and kicking. Life isn’t all about money, working and paying bills every month. Life is all about enjoying it to the fullest and let life/things be. We need to rest and feel the importance of time for yourself. Give time to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Learn to love yourself first because it is the greatest love of all.
In loving yourself, you need to trust and know how to take good care of your being. Listen to your heart and do what you have to do. Trusting your own instinct will lead you to push more and never doubt on your ability.
Respect, Love, and Value yourself. Always remember to be good to yourself by taking care of yourself. Make yourself a priority and know that it’s okay. Don’t feel guilty for loving yourself, first! You’re just as important as anybody else.” – Stephanie Lahart
SELF-TALK.
Self-talk is the act or practice of talking to oneself, either aloud or silently and mentally positive.
In my experience, talking to yourself in front of the mirror is a positive way of building self- confidence. Some people say – talking to yourself in front of the mirror is a sign that you are crazy. Others say that it’s a sign of schizophrenia (Schizophrenia appear to those people who talk to themselves as they respond to the voices. Hallucinations.)
When I was in high school and college, every time we have quizzes and exams – I always review (talking to my own self especially on Q & A ) my notes speaking out loud. It helps me to remember and absorb information quickly. When speaking out loud I felt that all my senses are working and active.
It is weird talking alone to yourself but for me it is my way of boosting my energy to get going especially if I felt lazy to start my day. For example, after going out from my bedroom I tried talking to myself in front of my mirror. Giving a smile and greet “Good morning Beautiful, this day will be a great day!” It builds me more confidence and determination to pursue my dreams and goals. In this trying times it helps me to push more and fight my battles and to proceed to my next step. It helps me to overcome doubtful and unsure decisions in life, control my negative emotions and helps me to build healthy mindset.
According to the healthline.com by Timothy J. Legg written by Kimberly Holland, self-talk is your internal dialogue. Its influenced by your subconscious mind and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions and ideas.
Self-talk can be both negative and positive. It can be encouraging and distressing. Your self-talk depends on your personality. If you’re an optimist, your self-talk maybe more hopeful and positive. The opposite is generally true if you tend to be a pessimist. Positive thinking and optimism can be effective stress management tools. Having a positive outlook on life can provide you with some health benefits. If you have a too negative self-talk then you want to emphasize positive self -talk you can learn to shift that inner dialogue. It can help you to be more positive person and it may improve your health. Self- talk can enhance your performance and general well-being. Self -talk increased vitality, greater life satisfaction, improved immune function, reduced pain, better physical well-being, reduced risk for death, less stress and distress.
MOTIVATE YOURSELF.
Lack of motivation is one of the symptoms of depression. Don’t allow yourself to be trap in this situation. We have some issues in life or experiences that sometimes affects our mood and confidence. We need to help ourselves to improve our own situation. For example, if you have done small things that makes you feel good celebrate that victories. Always think positive and establish routines that make you feel motivated. Self-motivation is the best outfit we can have to face all the trials in life.
In my experience negative situation makes me more motivated. It helps me to do more and exert extra effort to get what I want in life. A lot of failures happened in my existence. I felt depressed but instead of punishing myself, it helps me to do something better and sustain for a career move to pursue my dreams/goals.
It is very hard to control your emotions especially if nobody is supporting you emotionally and no one was there to comfort you when you need it the most. In every emotion, behavior and decision we do is rooted in our minds. So it is up to us to do something for our self to be motivated.
Don’t be afraid of change, because it is leading you to a new beginning.
– Joyce Meyer
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