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Life Experiences

Speed of Life

I just finished watching a movie from the  novel “Life at These Speeds” by Jeremy Jackson. I was inspired to write something about it during this pandemic COVID19 because it really amazed me on how this high school athlete conquer his disastrous/traumatic experience and on how he overcome the dramatic loss in his life……

Traumatic experiences are like scars that causes difficulties in life but sometimes it leads to a new beginning.

I really can’t imagine life during this Corana Virus pandemic. Still waiting for the vaccines to come out so everyone will move forward in life in a normal way.(I know vaccines are not really the cure on these COVID19 Virus).

I know that life now during these Covid19 is not much related on the movie but I was just motivated to write about my experiences during this pandemic.

It is so hard in every individual to adjust in this kind of life (in this new normal thing). Most of us are stuck, no income and still confused on how to start all over again. For me, it is really a stressful and distressing experience I ever had in my entire life. I lost everything I had during this hard time. Business have been closed and source of income here in my place right now is so hard.

Because of the losses we experienced, speed of life now becomes slow due to C19 and here’s another UK’s new COVID 19 strain, most of us are struggling with life especially to those individual who had a hard time to cope with these kind of situation makes us depressed and hopeful.

Currently living in a rural area here in Philippines and it really needs a lot of adjustments (been living here almost 8 months already). Just missing the fast paced of life in the city. Moving to the province is really unexpected.

Some people say that simple living is better…… Yes, I want to live in a simple life but I just realized that simple living is not really simple. Just like cutting back some regularly and a hectic lifestyle like reducing consumption, simple diet like buying local products, growing your own food and starting being more self-sufficient, focusing on what is available around and doing some stuff that you really don’t like to do just like cooking on woods (need to cut woods or get some twigs and do some fire — it is so hard because I’m not good on putting fire on it ha-ha! It’s a good experience though –  good to be a girl scout in my elementary days). Another thing is when you want to take a bath, you need to do the old ways. No shower. You take a bucket (timba/balde in tagalog) and put water on it, use a dipper or pitcher (tabo in tagalog) to have a bath.

Living in the city always make me active and I don’t even have enough sleep. I always make myself busy but as a reward, I give myself a treat now and then. I always move and travel whenever I can to overwhelm my feeling even in the busiest days.

Now, living in the province is okay avoiding too much traffic and very noisy city but sometimes I really missed my pre-pandemic life in the city. I’m making myself busy here but it’s not easy to do the things that you never did before. As of now I’m slowly accepting the fact that we don’t always get what we want in life.

Days, weeks and months passed, slow paced of life in the province makes me appreciate simple living. Having an aha moment in these place makes me learn a lot of new things as I moved forward and experienced life changes.As I narrate earlier, simple life is not really simple. You have to give efforts too. It is not just as simple as that.

From day to day living, you still have a choice to push on or just make yourself stuck. It is still your decision to do what is good and important. Experiences every day is a choice to live because we have a lot of options on this planet. We are stuck sometimes on one path but life speeds will lead us to new beginning. Struggles and hard times is unavoidable but we still have choices to continue or regret in life.

I learned that life should be balance. We just need to go with the tempo of our existence. The slow paced of environment makes us realized that sometimes it needs to slow down and appreciate the little things around us and it will lead us to see a bigger picture – the wonderful ways on how to live in this world (wonderful world).

We as humans are totally different. We just need to be patient to ourselves. As the saying says “Nothing in nature blooms year round”. It’s ok to rest. Many of us have been looking for ways on how to feel good/better, to have a good source of income and to sustain our needs/wants but during this pandemic, it is really hard for some of us to maintain what we begin. We are searching for something that makes us productive and to support ourselves/ family and to live the way we want to be. We can still reach that planned goals but this is the time to pause for a while.Just remind ourselves that it’s not the endpoint. It is just a new beginning for a new journey that we never planned in  life (new, better and beautiful life).

Always be thankful and grateful for all the things that you are experiencing now because it helps you to push harder in order to get what you want to achieve. Embrace every situation, you can be slow today but who knows tomorrow will be greater and brighter. Take it easy. Don’t be too fast try to make it slowly. Time is free so live one day at a time because unplanned plans will teach us to cherish every moment and memories to enjoy in this slow paced of life.Relax. Once we lost  it we can never get it back so grab this opportunity to make life more meaningful.

Sometimes, even our best-laid plans don’t work out the way we intended. But if one plan fails, don’t lose hope–there is always another way to reach a solution. Don’t give up! – EntrepreneurMindset

Speed of life can be slow, fast or whatever pace of life it is, never be discourage just continually make progress. Ralph Waldo Emerson said “Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.”

Fast and slow do more than just describe a rate of change. They are shorthand for ways of being, or philosophies of life. Fast is busy, controlling, aggressive, hurried, analytical, stressed, superficial, impatient, active, quantity-over-quality. Slow is the opposite:  calm, careful, receptive, still, intuitive, unhurried, patient, reflective, quality-over-quantity. It is about making real and meaningful connections – with people, culture, work, food, everything. The paradox is that slow does not always mean slow…It is also possible to do things quickly while maintaining a Slow frame of mind. – Carl Honoré

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PositiveVibes

Things To Do When You Feel Stuck in Life

Have you ever been to a place and never expect to be stuck due to circumstances and living with uncertainties?

What would you do if things happened and it’s not meant to your plans?

Most of us this year 2020 is the most challenging year. All jobs have been stoped, shops are closed, we can’t travel, too much restrictions and most of us can’t do what we want to do(staying at home).

I just learned that this year was the time to realized that life was not meant to be in one place.

Things happened unexpectedly. From living in different places – I learned that life is too short and unpredictable, instead of making myself depressed I try to broaden my horizons and let change happen without forcing myself to react on what’s happening around.

CHANGE YOUR MINDSET.

Changed the mentality that the place you are now are set to you for the rest of your life. This is the time to explore new things, new places, learn to embrace new experiences and enjoy the new incredible journey.

Crazy things happen in unexpected way but we can change it in a way we wanted it to be. Learn to adopt and manage the things that makes us sick and turn into a memorable one.

Feeling stuck in life? Don’t you worry you’re not alone. Most of us now have the same feelings and it is a common problem now a days – globally we are in trying times. We get frustrated and depressed, it seems that we can’t move forward and the things we planned did not happen.

Feeling stuck means need to do something better – new things gonna happen soon and there are some things that is not meant for us. Our past should be changed into new ones because the routine/plans are not working anymore.

Things happening around us are temporary and we have to change our outlook in life in order to proceed for a new beginning.

As we live day by day, small things that we did will become big again someday. So start it now, make list of ways on how to start all over again that can help you start a new beginning in order to get your goal.

You don’t need to be in a hurry. Slow down, step forward and figure out what you need to do to be unstucked.

NEVER STOP CHASING YOUR DREAMS.

Dare to make yourself more productive and that uncertainty feeling should not stop us from making a change. Never ever stop chasing your dreams.

Even we are not sure what exactly the result is, never stop moving until you get there and see what you really want and how to get it.

So start acting. Sitting and waiting for things will not change anything at all. Start to do small things and the big result will be there soon even though how long you will wait at least you’ve started something new for yourself.

ALWAYS THINK POSITIVE.

Always think positive and pray to God to guide you every day that this life will be better again soon. Avoid negative energy/thoughts that makes you sick. Eliminate toxic people who always contribute negativity in your daily activities. Surround yourself with positivity and get rid of the negative ones. Get a bigger picture of your results.

Follow your heart but always be kind. Set boundaries and if people disrespect you just move away and step back.

All of us have problems and it is not magic to disappear when thinking positive vibes and positive mind but it helps us to manage our own problems in a positive approach to our hardships in a productive way. Always think positive so that life will give back positive results.

RELAX AND STOP OVERTHINKING.

Just relax. Spend time with yourself and stop overthinking. We can’t control every situations and circumstances but the life we wanted is within our control.  

Just focus on good things. In this trying times we have a lot of challenging situations which is already part of our daily life. But instead of focusing in this negative settings, try to convert it into enjoyable and fun way. For example, you really feel uncomfortable with your housemates for some personal reasons then don’t just seat and keep on punishing yourself in thinking “what ifs” and “if only”, instead walk away and make yourself busy. Read books. Write poems/blog. Talk to your love ones through phone calls or have a walk  and get some fresh air – deeply breath, tell yourself that everything will be fine soon.

LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF.

This is the darkest feeling in my whole life because I felt that I am so unproductive for almost 6 months. I don’t know what to do and how to start all over again. I never thought that life was so cruel to me this year. But, I realized that life has taught me a lot. No income but still surviving. Still have foods to eat. No sickness and still breathing and kicking. Life isn’t all about money, working and paying bills every month. Life is all about enjoying it to the fullest and let life/things be. We need to rest and feel the importance of time for yourself. Give time to yourself. Be kind to yourself. Learn to love yourself first because it is the greatest love of all.

In loving yourself, you need to trust and know how to take good care of your being. Listen to your heart and do what you have to do. Trusting your own instinct will lead you to push more and never doubt on your ability.

Respect, Love, and Value yourself. Always remember to be good to yourself by taking care of yourself. Make yourself a priority and know that it’s okay. Don’t feel guilty for loving yourself, first! You’re just as important as anybody else.” – Stephanie Lahart

SELF-TALK.

Self-talk is the act or practice of talking to oneself, either aloud or silently and mentally positive.

In my experience, talking to yourself in front of the mirror is a positive way of building self- confidence. Some people say – talking to yourself in front of the mirror is a sign that you are crazy. Others say that it’s a sign of schizophrenia (Schizophrenia appear to those people who talk to themselves as they respond to the voices. Hallucinations.)

When I was in high school and college, every time we have quizzes and exams – I always review (talking to my own self especially on Q & A ) my notes speaking out loud. It helps me to remember and absorb information quickly. When speaking out loud I felt that all my senses are working and active.

It is weird talking alone to yourself but for me it is my way of boosting my energy to get going especially if I felt lazy to start my day. For example,       after going out from my bedroom I tried talking to myself in front of my mirror. Giving a smile and greet “Good morning Beautiful, this day will be a great day!” It builds me more confidence and determination to pursue my dreams and goals. In this trying times it helps me to push more and fight my battles and to proceed to my next step. It helps me to overcome doubtful and unsure decisions in life, control my negative emotions and helps me to build healthy mindset.

According to the healthline.com by Timothy J. Legg written by Kimberly Holland, self-talk is your internal dialogue. Its influenced by your subconscious mind and it reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions and ideas.

Self-talk can be both negative and positive. It can be encouraging and distressing. Your self-talk depends on your personality. If you’re an optimist, your self-talk maybe more hopeful and positive. The opposite is generally true if you tend to be a pessimist. Positive thinking and optimism can be effective stress management tools. Having a positive outlook on life can provide you with some health benefits. If you have a too negative self-talk then you want to emphasize positive self -talk you can learn to shift that inner dialogue. It can help you to be more positive person and it may improve your health. Self- talk can enhance your performance and general well-being. Self -talk increased vitality, greater life satisfaction, improved immune function, reduced pain, better physical well-being, reduced risk for death, less stress and distress.

MOTIVATE YOURSELF.

Lack of motivation is one of the symptoms of depression. Don’t allow yourself to be trap in this situation. We have some issues in life or experiences that sometimes affects our mood and confidence. We need to help ourselves to improve our own situation. For example, if you have done small things that makes you feel good celebrate that victories. Always think positive and establish routines that make you feel motivated. Self-motivation is the best outfit we can have to face all the trials in life.

In my experience negative situation makes me more motivated. It helps me to do more and exert extra effort to get what I want in life. A lot of failures happened in my existence. I felt depressed but instead of punishing myself, it helps me to do something better and sustain for a career move to pursue my dreams/goals.

It is very hard to control your emotions especially if nobody is supporting you emotionally and no one was there to comfort you when you need it the most. In every emotion, behavior and decision we do is rooted in our minds. So it is up to us to do something for our self to be motivated.

Don’t be afraid of change, because it is leading you to a new beginning.

– Joyce Meyer

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life in the province

Miles Away from Home

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There’s nothing like staying at home for real comfort. –Jane Austen

Staying at home makes us feel comfortable and feel relaxed especially with foggy/chilly weather (missing Home-Baguio City). Sipping your hot coffee or hot chocolate in the afternoon while staring at the windows with hard rain dropping around.

A cup of hot chocolate while watching rain drops falling on the ground.

These moments make you reminisce the past. The good and the bad.

Feeling the cold weather, thinking all the stuff you haven’t done in your life. The regrets, the “what if’s” and what you could have been “if only”.

Foggy afternoon.

Unexpected life changes misses your past moments and memories with family, friends, your daily routine/jobs, activities and all the crazy things you had done in the past. Mistakes that was not been corrected. Scars that was not been erased and the wounds that was not healed (drama hu-hu!).

Miles away from home makes you realized how family gives you the real comfort. In sickness and in health they are always around to give you support.

The storm comes and you’re looking for a real shelter and a real comfort of a family. The first thing comes on your mind “I just want to go home”. Missing your family from home will make you sick but it inspires you to have more courage and to be strong in order to be alive again!

Counting days and nights. Weeks and months. Missing your family miles away from home #DareToBeThere soon (home sweetie home).

This storm will pass anyway. Instead of stressing life, continue to pursue your dreams and implement your ambitions creating the by-product hope. Without hope, you are more often sick thinking a lot of nonsense, building nothing at all and enjoy life less. Attitude and behavior you show all day will tend to influence those around you. Be positive and don’t lose vitality. Make yourself busy, don’t bury your dreams and talents.

Re-fueling your soul will lead to great results. Despite of all the negative things happening around us continue to make a difference. Try to attempt to do anything risky and don’t be afraid to fail.

According to Mark Twain, people fear things which never happen. A direct correlation with low esteem and fear. People with high self-esteem are more confident in faith ventures and are willing to risk failure to pursue fulfillment.

Looking back in moving to the province. Never in my mind saying “I should never have moved out here” (Negros Oriental).I always embrace new experiences and creating new moments/memories to remember. But, sometimes feeling homesick because things in my place (Baguio City) was so different here.

Back where I used to live and lifestyle. Life in the province to where I live now is harder when it comes to money but when it comes to food, you can plant for your living. I remember being able to eat dinner with my family, the laugh of my niece/nephews while playing with them, watch tv/movies together, out for lunch together and walk in the park (Burnham Park) or around session road (city center road in Baguio City). Window shopping with my mom at the mall and eat out. In my current location, there’s so much going on all the time at the farm.Ridiculous routine. Life in the province is plainly simple not unlike in highly urbanized city. Things are so new and different here.

Memories can be wonderful but don’t focus too much on them. Used your wonderful experiences to move on and grow even better for the present and future life. Try to drive your lives forward with present opportunities and trusting God to take you to a greener grass (hoping to be in a right track). To find inner contentment, have external improvements, self-satisfaction, applause of accomplishments and feeling the warmth of affirmation.

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life lessons

Finding A New Normal

Most of us don’t want to find a new normal. We just want to stay on the old ones….

There are really times when we don’t have the control to what is happening around us. But, we can’t do anything because this is not beyond our control. Life has been changed due to Covid-19.

Finding a new normal in this time of pandemic is so different to live the way we want.

We find ourselves lost in this time of the year. We  didn’t even know where to go and how to start all over again.

Some are liquidating their assets or anything to be disposed because they are depressed without any income anymore. Businesses have been closed.Jobs no more. A little cash on hand but still confused on how to start and roll the money…

We can’t control all the things that was happening now……but instead of focusing in this situation, we should try to exercise our senses and thoughts about what we really need to do in spite of many struggles in times of this unexpected situations. Take a deep breath and then dive into way of experiencing new life.

After moving away from the city to the province,we are still finding what to do and where will we be after this life shifts way of life.

Starting all over again is so difficult.

  • Need to begin again without any idea and how?
  • Luck of resources
  • Afraid on how to reset the starting button
  • Doubts on different things
  • Missing the old ways of life.
  • A lot of adjustments.
  • The way we socialize.
  • New routine.

It is very hard to adjust in a new normal way of life.

The New Normal life due to COVID-19 has been changed our way of life. Higher stress levels can bring out both the best and worst peoples attitude and behavior around us.

Different approach to new normal of socializing and connecting to our family, friends, relatives and to others is too different until the covid virus is still existing.

Everything around us has been changed so we need to accept and understand the fact that we are facing a different way of life and creating a life changing routine. Accept it as a big challenge and use it as a weapon in every aspect in our lives.

Remind ourselves that during this moment we will have a lot of adjustments.

All of us have different approach on how to deal with this new normal way of living. The important thing is we should take care of our own self. Let’s guard our mental and emotional needs. The sense of feeling peace and security.

Close your eyes and know that life is good and blessed by God. You need to feel that you are incredible and worth so the flow of everyday life will be more positive and productive.

Quotes by Wayne Dyer. Hill side, Province of Negros Oriental.

Be more vigilant and alert to our surroundings concerning to our health protection. We need to be more careful and strictly follow health protocols in order to avoid the spread of the virus.

Always apply physical distancing, proper handwashing, proper wearing of facemask, healthy lifestyle, maintain cleanliness, boosting immune system and follow government health advice to avoid the spread of the COVID19 virus. We need to support each other to stay safe, healthy and well.

COVID19 is beyond any single persons’ control, it really triggers mental and emotional anxiety.

We need to breath, relax, keep calm, stay connected with our family/friends and to others.

Engage more in healthy lifestyle, fun activities and need to take a break watching news about COVID19.

Goodshepherd Banawa Cebu City 🇵🇭

Watch movies and read inspirational books to divert our attention to different perspective in life and to fight the pandemic anxiety.

All the things we see and hear now a days have a very big impact on our life so focus on what makes us smile and feel good each day. Always feel positive and grateful. This is life but it is not the end but you always have the options on how to begin and make life ready to map out the strategy of how to live it out day by day.

Continue life in a fun way so you will accomplish a new vision what really life is. Each day you will likely see and experience different things along the way that make you realize that life is beautiful and it will help you to begin to develop a personalized action plans to get the results in every area of your life.

Life is beautiful…Goodshepherd Cebu City 🇵🇭

Seeing yourself productive will give you hope and make you more active and make you realize that a better life is possible and in fact is happening day by day.

“Life is hard but God is good.” Every hardship in our life, God always have a purpose. It might be pain in the past or current problems. This pressures in life could shapes us into a person of character and compassion.

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.”

Earl Nightingale

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